You are not aware of what is happening all around you. The world is nothing like the place you think it to be. All your ideas about what is occurring and why are all incorrect. You are surrounded and not by the people you think. There is something happening all around you and even though it is obvious, you cannot see it accurately. You are imposing qualities and assumptions onto the world it does not have. The paradigms under which you operate are all wrong. You are as far from reality as it is possible to be despite having eyes and ears and smell.
The problem is not that others are not trying hard enough to be what you assume they should be. The problem is you think they are one way when in fact they are utterly different from anything you imagine or project onto them.
How do I know?
All my life I have despaired that others are not more like me. Once I was old enough, I finally realized that others are nothing like me and never will be. They don't have anything to give. It's not that they are not trying hard enough. It's that my qualities are not in them. No amount of effort would produce them. It's wrong of me to fault others for lacking virtues they can never have and that go against their innermost nature. People who can understand me are born that way. It's not a matter of forcing them to try harder. When people comprehend me, they were born with that potential. The rest never had it and it is futile to try to explain anything to them.
You resolve conflicts with such people by avoiding them. There is no other conflict resolution for problems like these. They live one place, you live another, nobody has to fight just because you are different. The peaceful course for good men is separation. That is the sanest alternative to the nightmare we have built today.